View From My Window

Sunday, August 7, 2022 — I’ve been among the missing for the last week plus. My dear friend, Mage Bailey lost her battle with cancer and I’ve not felt like writing. Actually, I haven’t been a day without thinking of her. I know she would want me to keep on writing. If our situations were reversed, I would want her to keep on writing, and drawing/painting and creating beautiful quilts. I know she struggled getting that last quilt finished, but finish it she did, and it was stunning.

I think about how much I miss her and know that the pain felt by her husband and family are far, far greater than mine could ever be. I hate cancer!! It’s taken so many of my family and friends.

I am still scheduled for the defibrillator surgery. As the time draws near, I think about what my life will be like after the implantation. The other day I had several errands to run. By the time I was finished, I was in pain and cut short the list of errands. I gratefully headed for home. I didn’t even get to the grocery store–I was done.

Today, Robert (bless his heart) actually carried half a load of laundry to the laundry room. He was trying to get the wash caught up before my surgery. I was truly shocked that he was thinking that far ahead. Later on, I told him I needed to go to the grocery store and he asked if I would like him to come along. I said I would as I enjoyed being with him. I didn’t know how much help he would be and as it turned out, all he really did was push the cart. By the time we got to the checkout, he was trembling. I asked for help out and thankfully I’d got the very first parking space in the row so Robert didn’t have to walk very far. When we got home, he had trouble getting out of the car he was so weak. I did manage to get everything on my grocery list, so we should be set for at least another week or so.

I have a phone number for Elderly Assistance Services and will call them on Monday to see what they can offer as far as assistance.

Do take care. Be safe and be sure to tell those you love that you love them.

About tehachap

Happily married and retired, my hobbies are quilting, reading and anything to do with trains (watching, photographing and running them in our G scale garden railroad). My husband and I have truly enjoyed our retirement, and have fulfilled one of our primary goals in life and that is to own a home overlooking train tracks so we can watch trains 24/7. We are sincerely blessed in this life.
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14 Responses to View From My Window

  1. So very sorry to hear about your friend. I do know what it’s like, needing to grieve and also needing to “keep on” – tough, very tough. Sure hoping the home health agency can offer services to lighten your load these days. Take care.

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  2. Ellen Abbott says:

    Oh no! When did she pass? She just posted 11 days ago about the comic con. Her decline must have been sudden and swift.

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    • tehachap says:

      She passed on the 2nd. It WAS very sudden. It caught me totally unawares. I knew that hospice had been called in and that she was losing ground fast, but to have her gone was such a shock. But I’m grateful that she’s no longer in pain. Missing her greatly, but happy for her.

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  3. I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. Getting as much help as you can is a great idea. My husband passed from cancer and I could have used some help, but he wanted to keep everything private so I couldn’t reach out.

    Deb

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  4. dkzody says:

    I too was saddened to learn of Mage’s passing. I knew it was coming, she had prepared us and given hints that the days were few and she was attempting as much joy as possible. I hope we can all end like that…looking for the joyful moments, remembering the good times, the good friends. I will miss her posts and her pictures.

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    • tehachap says:

      I knew it was coming as well, but it came much quicker than I anticipated. I told George that I thought we would have her for a while longer. I’m still having trouble with the fact that she’s gone from my life.

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  5. 67andgood says:

    I will miss her too. I was fortunate to meet her and George a few years ago at Poolie and Barb’s combined birthday. She sat across from me and was such a delight. I know she is laughing with Poolie now about the old times.

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    • tehachap says:

      Oh goodness, how could I forget Poohlie?? Ahhhh… years ago I had a very nice collection of art glass fruit and an Italian-made porcelain footed bowl. I gave Poohlie the bowl and fruit collection. My niece was here visiting one weekend and I told her about my wanting to get the items to Poohlie and asked if she would be willing to meet up with Mage to give her Poohlie’s gift. She said yes, so my niece also knows Mage. Never will forget that… Oh, and another dear friend of Mage’s who has passed is Duck! He was such a cool character. Wonderful artist as well. Thanks for reminding me of all these wonderful memories!

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  6. Dan Antion says:

    I am sorry about the loss of your friend.

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  7. Joanne Noragon says:

    Thank you, Carol, for telling friends of Mage that she is gone. She was the dearest of all; she made me feel so welcome.
    How I hope Elderly Assistance Service can be of some help. You’re not in a one person party.

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